Why do we lose friends as we get older?
05 May 2016
As we mature, we attain new interests, hobbies and sometimes, we just need to mix it all up! And suddenly, the same friends we used to think we had so much in common with don't really seem to share any common ground. When friends cannot appreciate each other's differences, the end of a good friendship is sadly inevitable. However, just because you don't have the same interests doesn't mean you have to throw away a friendship - especially if it's worth holding onto. If it's someone you genuinely care about, then show interest in their latest art crave or join them for that salsa class next week. The beauty of life and relationships is that experiences are endless, and by simply expressing your support, your friendship will grow too.
You'd love to go to that wine festival but you're working extra hours for a promotion and as much as you could use a break, you just need to sleep. You spend your weekend playing taxi driver to your kids, whose extra curricular activities and social lives demands your full attention.
If these scenarios sound familiar, fear not because the word that best explains this is purely 'life'. As the famous saying goes "life is what happens when you're busy making plans". When you're older, it becomes increasingly difficult to manage the balance between family, work and having a social life. It is important to remember that whilst your life circumstances may change, and your kids will eventually grow up, you could be left with a void - unless you have something meaningful to fill it with. Lifelong friendships - whilst at times may be trying, only increase in value as time goes on.
So while you may not be able to make that coffee date, you can still keep your friends in the loop. With so much technology and social media platforms, providing an update shouldn't be hard; a quick text or an email from work should do the trick. Schedule in a catch up, even if it is only once a month. This way, you're still opening the door of communication, and committing to keeping the relationship going.
As life goes on, each and every one of us continues to grow as our unique experiences shape who we are. And as we all journey onto our path, we sometimes find ourselves travelling in very different directions. Though it's important to recognise the role your friends play in your life, be prepared to say goodbye if you feel the friendship becomes forced or obligatory. Don't feel regret, keep moving forward and the right people will be there to greet you with open arms at your next destination.
Missing your special bud? There's no time like the present. Pick up the phone and plan a girls day out with your bestie at Adelaide Central Plaza's Tommy Tu Nail & Beauty Salon, where you'll get the finest manicure in town before treating yourselves to a delicious lunch at Dine Central.